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Photography at a cemetery has been discussed – however, ever think about what to include at a cremation memorial ceremony?

The days of big funerals are changing a little bit in places.  Some of the things that has been recommended to do can not be done fully at a memorial service.

Recently, this blogger, has had to deal with a cremation memorial service for her Mom.  This was impersonal, underwhelming and totally ignorable in my opinion.  Outside of visiting with people and eating cookies – it was leaving me feeling – so when is the funeral.

To avoid these issues I have a list of Best Practice helps to avoid them.

  1. Let the funeral home know how religious the crowd really is – this is a big issue.  Make sure you see the ceremony booklet before finishing your plan making.
  2. Ask about photos to be displayed.  And how not to display them.
  3. Help select the best of memories and the times everyone had.
  4. Enable the crowd at the funeral home to grieve along with you instead of just holding your hand.
  5. Allow the clergy member present to say a few words before having a prayer service as planned.  Especially if the clergy was a friend to the deceased.

If the urn is in the room – make sure a picture of the deceased is next to it.  You don’t want people to forget who this person is – even in cremain form.  (cremains are ashes)

Photos – the real reason for a take 2

Photos at the ceremony should be done with express permission of the family of the deceased.  Anyone you take a picture of – should give consent before it is taken.

Coming Soon – More posts!



Okay this best practice is for those attending a funeral – recently this topic came up during a genealogy conversation.

What to bring?

  • Yourself and family members over 10
  • Flowers according to the cemetery rules – available through a nearby florist that services that cemetery.
  • Your concerns for the family to help them get through the time.

The Don’ts

  • Don’t bring games for a kid to play during the service.
  • Don’t read a book during any portion of the event.
  • Don’t forget facial tissues and then borrow from someone else.
  • Don’t forget to pickup a program, card or sign a visitors book for the funeral.

The Do’s

  • Keep kids under 10 home and this is depending upon the relationship of the kid to the deceased.
  • Bring a box of facial tissue for your immediate family to use so they don’t have to ask other people for some.

Photographers – No taking pictures during the funeral without the express permission of the deceased immediate family.

Also, visitation or open casket photos should also be taken only with permission of the deceased immediate family.  Sorry, you should ask before you take a picture.

Last thing – do not encourage people to drop dirt on the coffin unless the family starts it off.  Its up to them and the cemetery to decide upon.

Another post soon!