Monday-Best Practices: Politeness

Posted: November 29, 2010 in Best Practices, For Cemetery Officials, For Genealogists

For this first best practices message – lets talk about Politeness.

A cemetery is one of the places where politeness is essential.

Why?  I am polite already some of you are saying – Cool if you are.  However, ever see someone use a curse word or call someone a derogatory word or statement?  That is not something we need to hear in a cemetery setting.

I have met people who have no clue how to speak to each other without a curse word or cuss word used.  These words are not necessary as it makes the user appear to be illiterate it also makes discussions hard to translate between parties.

It is also not Cool to use racially motivated or old fashioned slang in a cemetery.  You never know who you are actually hurting – yourselves or the party you are calling the name.  It makes the user look illiterate & the victim think – How Unprofessional.  Some cemeteries have guidelines on etiquette they would like to adhered to while within the cemetery – follow them!

Politeness also demands that if you are placing flowers at a grave – you must know the cemeteries rules of doing so before your visit.  Some cemeteries prefer one setup over another or simply refuse to have flowers allowed at all.  If the cemetery does not allow flowers in the cemetery or in a chapel on the grounds -do not take it personally.  Take a plant or flowers to your local church and donate them in your loved ones honor.

If during your visit to the cemetery – a funeral is in progress – do not attempt to join or visit with the funeral goers.  Oftentimes, it is a private ceremony or the family does not want uninvited people.  If at anytime cemetery personnel, ground keepers or security ask you leave for a funeral – do not take it personally.  Otherwise, offer a prayer for the departed and the family.

According to my Mom “Do not do anything anywhere in an emotionally charged area that you could not do in front of your Mom”

Note:  These Best practices are quick reminders on how we can show ourselves as better professional genealogists.


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