Okay this best practice is for those attending a funeral – recently this topic came up during a genealogy conversation.
What to bring?
- Yourself and family members over 10
- Flowers according to the cemetery rules – available through a nearby florist that services that cemetery.
- Your concerns for the family to help them get through the time.
The Don’ts
- Don’t bring games for a kid to play during the service.
- Don’t read a book during any portion of the event.
- Don’t forget facial tissues and then borrow from someone else.
- Don’t forget to pickup a program, card or sign a visitors book for the funeral.
The Do’s
- Keep kids under 10 home and this is depending upon the relationship of the kid to the deceased.
- Bring a box of facial tissue for your immediate family to use so they don’t have to ask other people for some.
Photographers – No taking pictures during the funeral without the express permission of the deceased immediate family.
Also, visitation or open casket photos should also be taken only with permission of the deceased immediate family. Sorry, you should ask before you take a picture.
Last thing – do not encourage people to drop dirt on the coffin unless the family starts it off. Its up to them and the cemetery to decide upon.
Another post soon!

